Marriage 101: Three Tips for Being Your Own Person

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So you’ve finally found your Prince Charming. Then, he swept you off your feet, got down on one knee, and popped the question. And now, you’re about to tie the knot and ride away to your Happily Ever After. Best wishes to you and your Prince! May you have a long and happy life together!

However, just because you’ll be spending the rest of your life together with your man, this doesn’t mean you should lose yourself. Remember that you’ll only be truly happy in your marriage if you’re happy with yourself. Take a look at three ways you can help yourself ensure that you’ll always be your own person even after getting married.

Have time for yourself

While it’s natural for couples, especially newlyweds, to want to spend most of their time together, you still need to have some time just for yourself. Some me-time or alone time will allow you—and your man as well—to grow as an individual and have a healthy sense of self. When it comes to getting some me-time, don’t stress yourself over how much time you need to spend on your own. Whether it takes five minutes or one week, what matters is that you spend your alone time relaxing or doing activities you enjoy.

Some me-time can be something as simple as letting your mind wander for 5-10 minutes before you get up from bed every morning. A relaxing 30-minute warm bath at the end of a long day is a great idea as well. Of course, going to the salon to get your hair and nails done, to a spa to get a massage, or even to a chiropractic clinic to treat aches can be a part of your me-time too. And if going on a shopping spree relaxes you, then go ahead and splurge once in a while! Just do whatever makes you happy or relaxed during your alone time.


Find time for your family and friends

Aside from having time for yourself, you also need to spend time with your family and friends. Obviously, your priorities will change once you get married, but your partnership with your man shouldn’t be the only meaningful relationship you have in your life. As a human being, you’ll still need to feel a sense of belonging to a social group, which is important for your personal growth. And your family and friends have been and will always be a great, if not the best, social group for you even if you’re already married.

So how do you find time for your family and friends? Well, for starters, just stay in touch with them. A simple text message a couple of times a week will let them know that you still think about them. If you have time, you can call them just to get caught up on what’s happening in their lives. Better yet, go out with your family and friends so that you can have some bonding time. You don’t actually have to send them a text message, give them a call, or go out with them every day. Just do these things often enough to maintain your relationships with your family and friends.

Make time for your dreams

Marrying the love of your life may be a dream come true for you, but for sure, you still have other goals in life. And the good thing is, you can still pursue your dreams even if you get married. Keep in mind that pursuing your dreams leads to self-discovery, and achieving them results in high self-esteem, both of which are vital to your growth as an individual. So hang on to your dreams even as you embark on your married life.

If having a successful career is one of your ultimate goals in life, then good for you. There’s no reason for your career to take a backseat to your marriage. But what if you really need to give up your career, especially when you start a family? Well, you can give up your career but don’t let go of your dreams. There are still ways you can achieve your dreams.

For example, if you used to work for a magazine, you could continue writing by starting your own blog. Yes, it wouldn’t be the same, but if your goal was to have your voice heard, then a blog could still make this dream come true for you.

Be Your Own Person

Marriage is a wonderful chapter in your life. After all, you get to spend the rest of your life with the man you love. But, while marriage will officially make you one half of a couple, you’re still a unique individual, so make sure to always be your own person. All the best, ladies!

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